It’s that time of year: Try not to be SAD!

Posted on September 25th, 2014

Categories: Caring For Elderly,Gerontology,Helping Seniors,Senior Care Management

Red Maple TreeHere in Minnesota, we have been enjoying such beautiful September weather!  It is the time of year in which we don’t have to run either the air conditioning or furnace.  Just last week, if I squinted my eyes, I could look at trees and see only green leaves.  I was able to ignore the gold tinge of color at the top of the Ash trees.  I could still pretend that it was August and that winter was months away!

But this week, the gorgeous reds and golds of Autumn are too prevalent to ignore.  And why would you want to?  Fall is the most spectacular time of year in the upper Midwest!

Well-because one of the things that triggers the beauty of Autumn is the waning daylight hours.  The flip side is that the nights are getting longer too!  Bottom line:  less and less daylight as we inevitably march toward Winter.

Some people are uniquely affected by this waning of daylight.  The lack of sunlight can cause a depressed mood: once referred to as seasonal affective disorder or SAD.

If you notice a bit of mood change in the Fall, there are ways to combat it:

  • Move more-even just a little bit
  • Set regular bed times so you are not tempted to oversleep
  • Eat well
  • Socialize
  • Be outdoors in the sunlight as much as you can

If your winter blues are severe enough to interrupt your sleep, leave you with no energy, and you feel extremely depressed:  it is time to contact a mental health professional or your doctor.

Professional help for depression associated with  winter may include:

Remember that as a family caregiver, your resources are already tapped by the emotional and physical demands of providing care. Be sure to take care of your own health and reach out to a professional if you feel overwhelmed.

Hopefully you will enjoy the beauty of Autumn however it unfolds in your part of the country!




Prostate Cancer Awareness

Posted on September 18th, 2014

Categories: Active Senior Living,Cancer,Medical,Prevention

man clip artGentlemen, listen up!  We want to remind you that September is National Prostate Cancer Awareness Month.

The chance of developing prostate cancer increases as men get older.  According to the National Cancer Institute (NCI), there are 217,730 estimated new cases and 32,050 deaths from prostate cancer in the United States so far in 2014.  The NCI recommends avoiding cancer risk factors such as smoking, being overweight, and lack of exercise.

Not every patient experiences symptoms of prostate cancer.  Many times, signs of prostate cancer are first detected by a doctor during a routine check-up.

Take charge of your health!  Help spread cancer awareness by eating healthy, exercising and seeing your doctor regularly.  Make sure to encourage your friends and loved ones to do the same.  Improve yourself not only  because September is also Self Improvement Month, but every day of every month.  You keeping you healthy and happy makes for a much richer life.

Ask yourself, “Am I doing everything I can to stay healthy?”  Spread what you are doing to keep yourself healthy and help others!

Honoring Patriot Day – September 11

Posted on September 11th, 2014

Categories: Active Senior Living,Grandparents,Helping Seniors,Terrorism's affect on seniors

Every generation has experienced a memorable event in our nation’s history, such as the bombing of Pearl Harbor, the assassination of President John F. Kennedy, and the end of the Cold War.  Do you remember where you were when you heard the news of the terrorist attacks on the morning of September 11th?  There are still many senior citizens alive today that remember them all.

Tragic events in our lives can make such lasting impacts on us that we know we can never forget.  Today, take the time to talk to your children or grandchildren about the value of freedom and why it is necessary to be thankful for those who have sacrificed their lives for all of us. Make sure you pass down your memories of major events in your own life – because we can all learn from history.

In addition, be sure to share your positive memorable experiences so that you can pass along happy memories and stories to your family as well.

May peace and comfort envelop the loved ones of those hit hardest by the tragic events of September 11, 2001.

September is National Self Improvement Month

Posted on September 4th, 2014

Categories: Aging Advocacy,Caring For Elderly,Grandparents

MirrorWhen you look in the mirror, what’s the first thought that comes to mind?  Was it a positive or negative thought?

If you find more flaws than strengths, take a step back and ask yourself:   “Are these imperfections (both internal and external) within my control?”  If they are, now’s the time to make a change!

Since September is National Self-Improvement Month, celebrate by taking the time to do something for you.  Go for a walk to enjoy the final days of summer, have lunch with a friend, or do an unexpected favor for a loved one.

Improve your health, stress levels or overall outlook on life by finding time to make yourself a better and happier person.

How do you find ways for self-improvement?  Share your ideas and help someone improve their life!

Doc: Please Treat Me Like I’m Human!

Posted on August 28th, 2014

Categories: Aging Advocacy,Caring For Elderly,Gerontology,Health Insurance,Helping Seniors,Medical,Prevention,Senior Care Management

doctor patient relationshipA colleague of mine (Ross) relayed a recent experience he had while seeing a medical specialist.   Ross had a tiny growth in his mouth that needed to be diagnosed and removed.  So he was referred to an oral surgeon by his dentist.  Ross dutifully made the appointment and arrived on time.  He patiently waited for 30 minutes before being seen.

Finally he was led into the exam room.  The surgeon came into the room shortly thereafter.  The surgeon took a peek at the growth and then stood behind Ross scribbling his notes in a chart and occasionally making a comment to Ross from behind the chair.

Ross valiantly asked questions regarding the growth, its cause, and potential for greater harm. The surgeon, however, was abrupt and dismissive.  The whole appointment lasted less than five minutes.

At the end Ross was led to a counter outside the exam room and sat down with an office staff person.  This person presented him with information about the cost of the procedure he needed as well as various methods of payment they accepted.  She reviewed insurance information and office policy.  She made the appointment for him to have the growth removed.  She was professional and courteous throughout her discourse.  She spent significantly more time explaining payment than the oral surgeon had spent diagnosing and educating Ross on his problem.

Ross began to feel his anger rise.  He related his thoughts to the office staffer.  She listened courteously and he felt she understood what he was trying to say.  She offered to get the surgeon back to better explain his diagnosis and the procedure.  Ross declined her offer but did agree to speak with the office manager.  Unfortunately the manager only defended the surgeon and the policies of the clinic.  For example, the charting table was behind the patient chair.  For this reason, she quipped, the doctors could not look at their patients and write at the same time.  Ross wanted to suggest that doctors use a clipboard so they could sit next to the patient while they charted, but he thought attempting any reason would not be successful so he simply left.

As Ross drove home, his anger abated, and he decided to try another oral surgeon.  He researched other providers and selected one that his dentist assured him was more consumer friendly

At the first clinic, Ross felt like just another wheel rolling off the assembly line.  Even though you typically don’t develop a long term relationship with an oral surgeon, he wanted to be treated as a human being.  He felt he was worthy of being addressed face to face and have his issues explained.  He knew he would feel better with a little reassurance that things were going to be OK!

Finally, because Ross is a gerontologist and works with senior citizens, he knows the importance of taking time to explain the unfamiliar and provide reassurance.  So often the elderly are brushed aside in such a manner and it is just plain wrong.

As a care manager and care giver, I always stress the importance of attending medical appointments with seniors for this very reason.

Have you any similar experiences?  Please share………………….


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Our State Fair

Posted on August 21st, 2014

Categories: Aging Advocacy,Caring For Elderly,Gerontology,Helping Seniors,Senior Care Management

State Fair PosterThe Minnesota State Fair begins today.  Excuse me if I brag, but, it’s the “best state fair in our state”!  OK!  So I stole that line from the Rodgers and Hammerstein musical “State Fair”.

But really it is true!  Minnesota’s state fair is spectacular.  It draws hundreds of thousands of visitors during it’s ten days.  The fair is a microcosm of the state’s demographics.  From youngest to oldest.  From rural to urbane. For this reason it is often referred to as “the great Minnesota get-together”.

It also provides a juxtaposition of old fashioned and cutting edge:  affording attendees comfort of the familiar alongside excitement of what is new.

Not surprisingly, food is a focal point of this cultural event.  Minnesota state fair food (from pickles to pork chops) is commonly served on a stick.  This leads to anticipation each year of what could they possibly put on a stick next?

Unofficially, the state fair also signals the end of summer and back to school.  It foretells of winter and waning daylight hours.  It is part of the rhythm of life here in Minnesota. Comforting somehow.

But this year I feel wisps of melancholy.  Last winter was a doozy!  Extremely cold with deep deep snow.  The challenges of harsh weather added to the challenge of care giving the elders I love.

But although the state fair is a harbinger of things to come, it is also an augury of Autumn, the most breathtaking season of all.

And so it is that I push away any thoughts of sadness and prepare to enjoy the glorious beauty of the Fall and the familiar tempo of my life.

Our state fair……..



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Depression: The Deadly Disorder

Posted on August 14th, 2014

Categories: Caring For Elderly,depression,Gerontology,Grief,Helping Seniors,Prevention,Resources,Senior Care Management

Mental HealthThere has been much discussion this week about the death of actor Robin Williams.  His death made more poignant because of reports indicating apparent suicide.

From the outside, we wonder how could this be?  He was a well loved comedian and actor.  He had a wife and three children.  Presumably he did not want for the necessities of life.  So, again, how could this be?

Sadly Mr. Williams was apparently haunted by the specter of depression.  Depression menaces it’s victims.  It is more than sadness.  It is pervasive and all encompassing.  It is an illness as real as cancer or heart disease: but far less understood.

As a care manager for the elderly, I have known that suicide rates are often the highest in elderly folks.  However, a recent article by the Washington Post indicated that there is a dramatic increase of suicide rates in middle age people.  I immediately took note of this fact because so many family care givers of seniors are indeed middle aged.

Depression is a deadly disorder.  Mr. William’s death has brought this fact into a new light.  Depression is a dangerous and overwhelming opponent.

But if you or someone you know is struggling with depression, treatment is available.  If you think someone is suicidal – seek immediate help.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:  1-800-273-TALK (8255)




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Aging: The Bitter and the Sweet

Posted on July 31st, 2014

Categories: Gerontology,Grandparents,Grief,Helping Seniors,Senior Care Management

IMG_0212An elderly friend of mine recently sold her vacation home in Vermont.  It was a charming place built in 1910.  It was actually an old schoolhouse that was converted into a home.

She and her husband spent many pleasurable autumns there.  They arrived each September and watched the maple leaves change from green, to red, then orange,  and finally golden.  From the tops of mountains to the deep valleys below.  Like molten lava slowly exuding downward in resplendent beauty.

Breathtaking she would exhale!

Family members would visit the house too and enjoy the beauty of Vermont in all of its seasons!  While her children grew to young adulthood, Vermont trips (though far) were not out of the question.

The dream was that the Vermont house would stay in the family to be enjoyed by generations to come.

But as often happens, life interfered with dreams.

First the grandchildren were born.  And the children (with grandchildren in tow) moved to the West Coast.  And then the grandchildren became the primary draw for visitors.  And then my friend’s husband passed away.  And shortly thereafter she became too frail to travel.

And the Vermont house sat empty for 2 years in a row.

So it is my friend made the difficult decision to sell the Vermont house.  The dream had faded so she listed the house for sale two months ago.  It sold this week.

To forgo the dream is a bitter pill to swallow.

May it be relieved by the sweetness of a lifetime of happy memories.

Aging:  the bitter and the sweet…

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Different Kinds of Sandwiches

Posted on July 24th, 2014

Categories: Caring For Elderly,Gerontology,Helping Seniors,In-Home Care,Senior Care Management

generations of peopleWhen I was in graduate school for Gerontology, we often discussed the “Sandwich Generation”.  The phrase referred to that group of typically middle aged people who find themselves in the role of care giver for their children as well as their aging parents.  The care givers were “sandwiched” in between both generations.

But in my work as a geriatric care manager, I have seen other kinds of sandwiches worth noting.  As society changes, so do the roles of caregivers.

  • For example, early onset of dementia is striking more and more people in middle age.  For some caregivers, this means that they are caring for aging parents, sick spouses, and children all at the same time.  Can you imagine?
  • It is also not uncommon for middle aged people to take on the role of parent to their own grandchildren while still caring for their aging parents.  This is often the case when an adult child is sick in some way and there is no spouse in the picture.
  • Another scenario I have seen is in families with just one adult child amongst siblings.  That child cares for her own children, her own aging parents, and in addition for several aging aunts and uncles.

As society becomes more complex and families follow suit, our definition of “Sandwich Generation” must expand.  After all, different kinds of sandwiches hold varying ingredients!

Finding the right support for caregivers involves honoring the uniqueness of their family situation.

So much of what is best in us is bound up in our love of family…..”  Haniel Long.









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Power of Attorney, Medical Directive – What does it all mean?

Posted on July 17th, 2014

Categories: Active Senior Living,Aging Advocacy,Caring For Elderly,Resources

Five wishesAdvocate on Aging Deborah Dolan’s job is to facilitate conversations about care giving between families and loved ones – not control it. She is simply included in order to start and direct discussions, especially when it comes to difficult topics such as legal issues, death and dying. Certain topics are typically more difficult to discuss without a neutral facilitator, such as assigning powers to designated individuals. Deborah stresses to her clients that every caregiver should know the differences between a general power of attorney, and a healthcare power of attorney. Here’s what you need to know when it comes to these powers:

A fiduciary or general power of attorney is in place to handle financial assets including property, money, life insurance, and investments. Whether a person needs to have property sold to pay for their care, have bank accounts changed in any way, the assigned general power of attorney has the same ability to handle all financial transactions that the owner of the asset has. It is important to remember that this power ends with the death of the person granting the power, and the executor of the estate takes over. Deborah sees some clients, who are afraid to designate a power of attorney because they fear losing control over their assets, or that someone will take their money and they won’t have it when they need it. Deborah facilitates these discussions in order to help the elder and their families address these issues before the powers or information is needed and not in crisis. Although Deborah is not an attorney, she is able to refer her clients to attorneys and recommends that an attorney assist in writing this document.

A healthcare power of attorney is usually included in a healthcare directive and designates an individual who, in Deborah’s words, “gives voice to the wishes of how a person wants to live and how he or she wants to die.” This healthcare power of attorney agrees that if the person giving the power becomes ill or incapacitated and is unable to speak, they will honor and direct that person’s care as written to the best of his or her ability. Unlike the financial power of attorney, a healthcare power of attorney and directive does not have to have an attorney involved. There are resources available online which are legally binding and honored when the signature of the person assigning the power is notarized or witnessed by two non-interested parties. Two such forms are Five Wishes and Honoring Choices Minnesota.

There is much to do and many decisions to make when a health crisis occurs. Giving the gift of information needed to carry out personal wishes when you are no longer able to speak for yourself is a gift of love and peace.

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